by India Bonham

How and Where to Meet Nerdy, Smart and Artistic People

My latest favorite blog of the moment is Soul Mating where you’ll find a post that could prove to be useful if you are single but seeking a cosmic twin to be romantic with in the future. Called “100 Places to Meet Nerdy, Smart and Artistic People” it could be just the nudge you need to abandon those excuses like, “I can’t meet anyone!” In addition to places recommended that are on the physical realms, she includes a slew of interesting websites you can meet potentially fascinating people on. Not only does writer Christina Laun give us a nice brainstorming list to use as a jumping off point, but she also offers up helpful tips–you may recognize many of her suggestions, but we could all use some small friendly reminders! Within her list, Ms. Laun simplifies certain tasks allowing your own confidence to take over and be rid of those annoying negative voices in your head that can creep up and prevent the possibilities! Full list at 10bestfreedatingservices.com.

The Importance of Emotional Independence , Before and During Your Relationship

In a recent blog post, Dr. Pamela Zimmer says the primary key to a healthy relationship with your current or future partner is Emotional Independence. In a nutshell, she says that being emotionally independent means that you take the responsibility for creating your own happiness and do not expect someone outside of yourself to create it for you (by the way, they can’t!). Further, Dr. Zimmer says that participants in the relationship might only bring each other down as a result of unhealthy dependencies forming if your foundation is not solidly emotionally independent. Bringing out the worst in each other yet reinforcing it over time brings you both even lower and you can fall into a vicious cycle perpetuating it. This is because one of you–or both of you–expects the other to provide your happiness and meet your needs. You need to check that you are taking care of yourself, emotionally, psychologically and not putting it all on your partner to do this. Seek the help of a professional if you have what seem like a lot of issues that you feel need airing–at times, things like this can be too much to expect of someone you are partnered with. Your love partner isn’t necessarily supposed to be your therapist after all. No, really, you do not want that kind of relationship with the one you love. Trust me. Read the complete piece at The Relationship Tip.

Pamela Zimmer, PhD is a Psycho-spiritual Therapist for women, founded a women’s center in New York in 1989 and has her own blog as well where you can find out about details on her other two keys to attaining a healthy relationship at growinghealthyrelationships.com.

Discovering Your Relationship’s Own Poetry

Women’s counselor, Sherrieh, likens love relationships to nature and poetry. Ever wonder what your own relationship’s poetry might look like? Sherrieh asks of you questions such as, What season are the two of you in? How are you feeding your relationship energy? Is it time time to prune your love branches? Participate in her brief facilitated exploration at sherrieh.wordpress.com.

Sherrieh has other blogs, such as Wise Woman in Woods.