Affair-Proofing Your Relationship

In “8 Ways to Affair-Proof Your Marriage,” author Therese J. Borchard gives us advice on preventing what happens to many married monogamous couples which usually winds up fatally jeopardizing their relationship’s future. As common sense as it may seem, actively avoiding situations that could lead to temptations is a good prevention of regrettable events! Ms. Borchard gives us specific tips she has personally gathered on how to make her and our marriages absolutely affair-proof. Nurturing safe friendships makes the list and Ms. Borchard counts this as the most important affair-prevention exercise in her life. Your partner will have interests that you will not enjoy nearly as much as they do, and vice versa. Having buddies to enjoy these activities with takes the pressure off the relationship for things it can’t necessarily easily feed. Number two on the author’s list is Recognize the Drug. This is a good one –- recognize the rush that results from connecting with someone new (or someone old in a new way), giving rise to our hormone levels and potentially tricking us into thinking this feeling is the answer to all your problems. She explains that this rush is not meaningful, real or lasting. To see Ms. Borchard’s excellent list in its entirety, go to dating.personals.yahoo.com.

On the flip, side, so-to-speak, if you are in a committed open relationship (non-monogamous), you may glean some good advice from uber-author Susie Bright’s podcast interview with Tristan Toarmino who has written the book titled, Opening Up, A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships. Ms. Bright has made this particular podcast available as a FREE sample! Check it out at susiebright.blog.com.

Dad’s House Blog Recommended Relationship Books

David Mott, the blogger of Dad’s House Blog shares his favorite spiritual and self-help books on building healthy relationships, and invites readers to add comments and talk about their favorites (of which there are many). While citing one on his list by the Dalai Lama (The Art of Happiness, with co-author Howard C. Cutler) Mott said that for him, embracing the spiritual view that life’s purpose is to be happy and that the way to achieve happiness is through compassion has helped him immensely relationship-wise. As a visual bonus, Mott also includes a video link on his post that isn’t exactly related to the topic but is oh-so-cool and depicts chakra energies…I enjoyed this one! Check it out in his post at dadshouseblog.com.