Express Yourself

I just saw this on CNN.com: Fighting with Spouse can be Good for Your Health by author Diane Mapes. Yes. It’s true! Of course there are some particulars to this. Those who don’t hold back their issues and anger –- especially women –- tend to fare a lot better in the long run than those who do. According to a 10-year study of 4,000 women and men, women who repressed angry feelings during conflicts in their marriage compared to women who did not repress, had four times the risk of dying. The author offers steps to combat this, beginning with Expressing Yourself: let your partner know that you are angry about something and that you would like to solve it, even if it needs to wait until later on. Another has to do with Discussing and Compromising. Ms. Mapes describes one woman who uses her blog to vent her true feelings. Her husband reads the blog and then after work they discuss and solve the problem together. Another important point? Keep Your Sense of Humor! For more details, please go to www.cnn.com.

Relationships We Admire

Many people haven’t had good role models or experience with loving relationships. Unfortunately, many of us cannot even count our parents as good relationship examples (I certainly can’t). Daily OM’s, The Journey of Commitment calls love and commitment to another person a spiritual process and says that often emotions can take over unless there is deeper thinking over what a commitment truly requires. Success in your union is linked to the realization that hard work, communication and negotiation are all going to be vital – not just the romantic love part that is nearly exclusively emphasized in our culture. One way to overcome misunderstandings in your relationship is to learn how to be more receptive and respectful towards your loved one. To do this, start by taking a deep breath, hold your mate in a place of love, and fully listen to what he or she is saying with your heart completely open to it. This brief article also advises us to seek guidance from those in relationships we admire. For more, the full article is at www.dailyom.com.

I Can See Through You

Strive for truthfulness at all times is the answer Robby Hamilton gives to a viewer’s relationship question in his video, Absolute Transparency: Do I Really Have To? Mr. Hamilton goes into detail, drawing from his own experiences with the freedom and satisfaction that comes from telling the truth all the time to those you are in a relationship with, even if you are in the beginning chapters of a relationship! According to Mr. Hamilton, ego prevents truth and we must work at not letting it control things and take over and instead embrace complete transparency. Through being truthful, the universe will provide you with exactly what you need — even if you think this might scare someone off. In the end, it won’t work that way: you will not gain more through untruths. The full peacecanbe.com video appears below.